Back in the days when I was a Midwife working in a busy Maternity Unit, I would quite often come across an expectant mother in the Ante Natal Clinic holding a new-born baby in her arms. If you stop to think about it, that is at best unlikely and often physiologically impossible. More often than not the explanation was that the newly expectant mother had suffered years of infertility, given up hope of ever getting pregnant and had adopted a baby, only to find that she was finally pregnant.
What is really amazing about stories like this is that once the stress of ‘not conceiving’ is released the pathway to conception is often miraculously cleared.
Click here to read the full article published by the British Society of Clinical Hypnosis
4/12/2017 0 Comments
No matter what you are trying to achieve having a calm and focused mind-set is a great asset.
If you are trying to let go high levels of stress or unhelpful thought patterns that might be getting in the way of natural conception, then a relaxed and calm state mind is most definitely your starting point.
If you want to reach out with your awareness and make contact with the soul essence of your future babies then a quiet mind is absolutely essential.
Wherever you are on your journey parenthood knowing how to cultivate a calm mind is a wonderful skill to have.
This month I have another free gift for you to help you do just that. It's called Clear Sky Mind and it's a short guided exercise to help the surface mental chatter of your mind drop away.
Don't forget I send out exercises like this every month to members of The Calm Mind Club. You can join here if you would like to and my latest releases delivered straight to your inbox.
Hope you enjoy the exercise, if you would like to leave some feedback I'd love to hear from you.
Stress, a lack of good quality sleep and trying to conceive are not a good mix!
With regular use this relaxation techniques can help you to:
· Fall asleep more quickly at night
· Enjoy a better quality of deep and restful sleep
· Have a greater resiliency and ability to cope with the pressures of your day
· Release stress and anxiety more easily
And the result of that is you will be placing yourself in a much better position for conception to occur naturally
Please make sure you watch or listen to this track at a time and in a place when it is safe for you to fall into a deep and restful sleep. You can listen for free here by clicking the play button, or download for a small fee.
Here’s to a good night sleep.
Everyone feels worried, anxious and stressed from time to time. That's natural. But if those states of high anxiety or stress aren't regularly released they can build up and start to damage your health.
Many cases of infertility are due to this alone. If the body experiences a state of fight or flight for too long, a consequence can be not feeling safe enough at a subconscious level to open up to new life.
Fortunately there are many excellent ways of releasing stress and worry. Sometimes deep work is required to uncover past traumas or hidden beliefs. More often though you can do this important work yourself just by dropping into a quiet mind space for a few moments and engaging with the information your subconscious mind is showing you.
In my latest podcast, I'll be talking you though a quick and simple exercise to add to your stress release tool kit.
Hope you find it useful.
More next time!
Did you know that using hypnosis in the field of fertility and maternity care is rapidly gaining credibility within the medical professions?
A steady stream of evidence based research has been coming forward recently to support its use for
unexplained infertility, support for assisted fertility programs such as IVF and of course it’s ever popular use for birth preparation and pain control.
In its simplest form hypnosis is really just a way to help you create a bridge of awareness from your conscious everyday thoughts to the subconscious mind where all your templates of beliefs, behaviours and emotions are stored.
This is important because it gives you a powerful way to give your subconscious mind suggestions for what you do want to happen and what you do want to experience. Hypnotic suggestions themselves are very simple but at the same time every word is precious and each positive suggestion offered to the mind in this deeply relaxed state is carefully crafted to help you achieve the very best outcomes, quickly and easily.
It’s true that some people are put off by the very word hypnosis but it’s really just a state of naturally occurring and highly focused inner awareness. You naturally go in and out of trance every day, . . when you are entranced by a good book or movie for example, or those special times as you awaken in the morning and fall asleep at night when you are naturally in a trance like state.
It’s not as some people think a state of unconsciousness, you will still be perfectly aware of what is being said to you and even though you may be invited to close your eyes to help you narrow down your focus of awareness, it’s important to know that you always have full control and break the trance state at any time should you want to or need to.
So what are the secret ingredients that make a hypnosis session successful?
Really it’s very simple and comes down to the 3 key elements of desire, imagination and expectancy.
Your intention to have a successful outcome is essential.
You must genuinely desire to be, do or have what you want both consciously and unconsciously and one of the ways in which hypnosis can be so very helpful is in revealing and releasing any unconscious blocks that might be getting in the way of your conscious desires. Being able to use all of your senses to imagine a successful outcome and having an open hearted expectancy that you will be successful also sends powerful messages to your subconscious mind that it’s time to change.
So as well as being a wonderful tool for goal achievement hypnosis also allows you to influence many of the unconscious processes in your body, such as the management of your stress response or perception of pain for example.
Using these skills on your own often works just as well and self-hypnosis is really very easy to learn because at the end of the day the biggest factor in your success is YOU and your ability to practice with focused intention and a true desire to experience something better for yourself.
In short, hypnosis gives you an empowering way to create a better and brighter future and that is a skill that is well worth having.
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3/8/2017 0 Comments
There’s no two ways about it, smoking is dangerous. It’s dangerous for you and potentially very dangerous for the well being of your unborn baby. Not only that, if you are a smoker and struggling to conceive then one of the first things you can do to help yourself is to quit.
Here are just a few of the many reasons why it’s so important to go into a pregnancy smoke free.:
Have I convinced you yet?
But nicotine is addictive and it may be that part of the reason you haven’t quit yet is because you are struggling to break the habit.
So today I’ve made a short video of hypnotic suggestions for you to help you become a non smoker.
Listen to it daily until you simply no longer have the desire to smoke.
For some people this happens very quickly, for others it may take a little longer to generate sufficient desire to become a permanent non smoker. Please also be aware however, that in some casesone to one work with a therapist may be recommended, to address any deeper emotional issues or to help you release high levels of stress.
In general, the more often you remind yourself, that now is the right time to become smoke free, the faster the results will be.
If you prefer to listen offline you can get the Be Baby Be Stop Smoking In Pregnancy mp3 download here
How it works
This short video takes about the same amount of time to listen to as it takes to have a cigarette break.
(So there’s no excuse not listen!!)
Do not play whilst performing any activity that requires your external conscious awareness.
To start click on the play button below.
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There’s a wealth of information out there for expectant mothers on pregnancy and birth, but so often the father has been left out of the conversation, BUT that has now changed. Male midwife Mark Harris has filled that vacuum, drawing on his decades of experience working with couples as they make the transition to being new parents.
You will learn, through experience, about important subjects ranging from massage to sex, and pain relief during labour to breastfeeding, this program is an honest, open and frank discussion about pregnancy and birth from a man’s point of view.
If you have been wondering what to do now she is pregnant, or how you will prepare yourself to be as supportive as you can be while she is giving birth, this program will equip to be the very best you can be.
You, together with Mark, will explore how to harness the power of birthing hormones, how to remain calm and aware in the birthing room, how to communicate effectively, and ultimately how to live the process of becoming a father to the full.
This lovely little relaxed breathing exercise will help you quieten down the busy thought traffic of the day and help your stress drop away. Focusing your awareness on your breath is one of the best practices to help you quieten down and expand your awareness and being stress free and calm is such an important part of successful IVF treatment and preparation for hypno-birthing.
It's short and sweet at just 8 minutes long.
Hope it helps to bring a little extra calm into your day today. Do let me know how you get on with it.
Birthing For Blokes is a fabulous new e-course from Midwife Mark Harris to help men support their partners during pregnancy and birth.
The truth is most men are terrified of childbirth and woefully ill prepared to support their partner as she goes through labour and delivery.
This much needed course will get the man in your life up to speed with important birth related information and help him to create a deep connection with you as you go through labour.
So ladies, if you think your man could do with a bit of extra support and information to help make your birthing day even more special then do encourage him to have a look at this course!
Christmas holidays can be stressful even in the best of times. The pressure is on to be festive and happy and if you are struggling to conceive, or in the middle of an assisted fertility program it can be tough to find yourself in social situations with the focus on children and extended family news.
So given that there is little room for grief and sadness amid the festive cheer and given that you can’t make the pain of infertility miraculously disappear, what can you do that will actually help you to cope better, even by just a little?
Here are 5 simple strategies that I often recommend to couples dreading the ‘baby’ question at festive gatherings. My hope for you is that they will help give you some extra resourcefulness and inner strength to cope better.
Tip 1: Be selective and practice saying no.
Give yourself permission to decline invitations to festivities where you are likely to be in the company of pregnant women or young children. Be selective and only accept those invitations that genuinely lift your heart at thought of going. If you can’t say no, consider how you could modify the invitation. For example, by arriving late and leaving early, or by preparing your responses for challenging conversations ahead of time.
Saying no can be a hard thing to do. It’s as if we have remnants of childhood memories that to say no is to be bad and to be bad is to be unloved and who wants to be unloved at Christmas time. Let it be alright to be a little selfish if that will give you protection from an upsetting situation. Trust in the messages from your heart about what is best for you and don’t let other people guilt you into doing things that don’t feel good.
Tip 2: Intensify your self-care regime
This is the one time of year when it’s even more important than usual to take good care of yourself. Think about this for a moment. What would really nourish and replenish you during the holidays?
Make a list of those special things that you don’t normally get to do during the rest of the year, include some things that are just for you and some that are for you and your partner to do together. Then share your list with your partner and see if you can pick something special to do together that will help you both feel rested and relaxed. It’s often the simple things that can end up being the most meaningful.
Tip 3: Don’t bottle up your feelings
Sharing your feelings is important throughout the year but Christmas can bring its own challenges as the pressure is on to be cheerful and upbeat no matter what is going on in your heart and mind. For many couples the stress of trying to conceive can be overwhelming and it’s natural to feel sad and low at times. But bottled up emotions can soon lead to high stress levels and that’s the last thing you need if you are trying to get pregnant. So taking some time to share your innermost feelings with your partner, with a trusted relative or therapist, is hugely important.
Tip 4: Prepare your answers for the dreaded ‘kids’ question.
Deciding in advance how you want to handle difficult questions can be oh so valuable, especially if you are faced with those dreaded question from well-meaning relatives about the patter of tiny feet. Choose your strategy, chose the words you are comfortable with and then practice saying those words out loud in front of the mirror a few times so that when you actually need to use them your voice will be strong and clear and you can feel proud of yourself for handling the situation so well.
Tip 5: Take good care of each other
Taking good care of each other is perhaps the most important tip of all. The very word ‘infertile’ carries such a potent emotional charge it can be hard to speak it out loud and it can leave you feeling isolated and cut off from others. This makes it all the more important to take good care of each other and share your feelings. This is one of those times when you need each other’s comfort more than ever.
The Christmas holidays are based on family and re-connecting with people and it’s almost impossible to avoid that. You may feel upbeat and strong one day and overwhelmed with sadness and doubt the next. Please know that these feelings are normal. You don’t need to suppress them for the sake of other people and you don’t need to put on a show of festive cheer if that doesn’t feel right for you.
Preparation and some positive thinking can go a long way to helping you enjoy the light and warmth of Christmas in your own way and on your own terms.
I just love watching this video of a baby delivered in it's amniotoic sac and still unware of it's new surroundings.
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Annie Watkins is a Clinical Hypnotherapist and retired Midwife specializing in fertility and pre-birth communication.
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